But my kids are big enough to entertain themselves quite a bit, now, and I have time to read again (hooray!). And it's all very 100 level stuff. There is certainly room in the world for a book about subsequent pregnancies. It would include such wisdom as:
- Your prior pregnancies have destroyed any abdominal muscles you might have had to begin with, so you will begin showing before you even know you're pregnant. People will consistently think you're 2-3 months farther along than you are. You will be asked, "Are you sure it's not twins?" often. Try not to take it personally.
- You will be more tired and more achy with this pregnancy than you were before. It's partly because you're older, it's partly because you're taking care of a kid or two while trying to grow another one, and it's partly because subsequent pregnancies are harder. Symptoms, like back pain and round ligament pain, will begin earlier and be more intense. Suck it up, Cupcake, there's nothing you can do. Oh, and just wait until you feel the after-labor pains this time. You'll refuse to leave the hospital until your husband gets a vasectomy. (No personal experience with this one, yet, but I've heard... and it scares me!)
- On the other hand, the third pregnancy is better because you have evidence that you'll get through it. You aren't as afraid of labor because you've done it before. It's not some scary unknown. It's do-able. You won't have as much anxiety about the baby as you did before, either. Maybe this is why third children tend to be mellow.
- Your older kid(s) will push on your tummy at least eleven times a day, and you'll be convinced that your baby will be born with bruises from head to toe. (I'll let you know in December whether or not that actually happens. Fortunately, this mom-to-be-again has enough padding, still, to protect the baby from sibling elbows). Speaking of padding....
- All of your friends will be dieting, and your husband will lose all the sympathy weight he gained when you were pregnant the first time (or two) and you will feel like a whale (see above re: abs).
- Nap Strategies - how to get your older kids to let you sleep for 20 minutes so you don't pass out when you're driving later. (Hint - take the kids to McDonald's Play Place, put on your giant sunglasses, and doze while they play).
- The Mom Diet - can you grow a healthy baby on raisins, Chicken McNuggets and PB&J? (Hint - no. Your kid will weigh 97 pounds at birth if you try. Be sure to take a vitamin and eat a vegetable once in a while).
- Lower Expectations - housework strategies for pregnant women with toddlers or preschoolers in the home. (Hint - tell the kids that scrubbing the floor is fun and get them to do it until you're so big you can't see your feet or the floor anymore. At that point, who cares?)
- Time Warp - why this pregnancy is going faster than your previous one(s) and what to do about it. (Hint - paint the nursery as soon as the plus appears on the pregnancy test, because this kid is going to arrive before you know it).