tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100658157604879121.post4778747202009913971..comments2023-10-25T11:53:50.989-04:00Comments on Pretty Babies: How do you handle gifts?Amyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10315843187811122669noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100658157604879121.post-22732093722914701332010-08-12T16:12:37.907-04:002010-08-12T16:12:37.907-04:00Let her buy the Jessie doll with her piggy bank mo...Let her buy the Jessie doll with her piggy bank money, but make sure she understands that she's buying it and therefore can't buy other things. It's a teachable moment, and it will still help keep the peace.Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02066291507752763515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100658157604879121.post-72582997483693616942010-08-11T19:00:53.932-04:002010-08-11T19:00:53.932-04:00SO TRICKY! We are yet to encounter this, our numbe...SO TRICKY! We are yet to encounter this, our number 2 is still a baby. I constantly want to buy things for our older one, yet I know that giving him everything he wants (or that I want for him) is not the best way to be - learning to wait/be disappointed/appreciate what you have etc are such great life skills....but also very difficult for a preschooler. Sometimes sanity for the mother is best, Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14441577239755293815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100658157604879121.post-40741872691218438402010-08-11T15:59:20.177-04:002010-08-11T15:59:20.177-04:00I think Claire should wait until Christmas. If ea...I think Claire should wait until Christmas. If each kid gets the same toys on each others birthdays, the magic of birthdays becomes lost. It was Mary Grace's birthday, so she should get all the attention and the toys that she patiently waited for. <br /><br />If Claire is still hell bent on getting a doll, have her pull weeds or mow the lawn to earn money to buy it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100658157604879121.post-80307287331435923802010-08-11T13:08:41.302-04:002010-08-11T13:08:41.302-04:00This isn't about the price of the doll. At. A...This isn't about the price of the doll. At. All. This is about the price of sanity. I would have gotten dolls for both of them. Even if they won't be played with in 6 months. Worth it!<br /><br />One doll is not going to spoil anybody. If anything, it's going to make everyone happy and sane :)strwberrryjoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596412816559373114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100658157604879121.post-31316139954351982072010-08-11T12:48:09.128-04:002010-08-11T12:48:09.128-04:00Well, now you know *I* want to go right to Amazon ...Well, now you know *I* want to go right to Amazon and buy Claire the doll and ship it to her....but....<br /><br />I was a parent, too. And I had these same problems. My 2 last boys were 2 years apart and they *always* loved the same stuff. Generally, I stemmed this by buying "not quite the same but similar" things for them as gifts. One would get the Sega, one would get the Nintendo Kimnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100658157604879121.post-28475281632310172672010-08-11T12:24:01.507-04:002010-08-11T12:24:01.507-04:00Kids need to learn that they don't get everyth...Kids need to learn that they don't get everything that everyone else has. They need to learn delayed gratification. Better now when the cost is a few dollars for the doll than when they are in college and rack up thousands in credit card debit.<br /><br />Abby has heard "put that on your Christmas list" a few times lately. Even at 5 she is ok with the wait. But at 3 it is a little angel0199https://www.blogger.com/profile/07708346874861450977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100658157604879121.post-7320243062882161292010-08-11T11:26:01.631-04:002010-08-11T11:26:01.631-04:00Team BJ here. Agree with eveything Jen said.
Som...Team BJ here. Agree with eveything Jen said. <br /><br />Something I try (emphasis on TRY) to remember is that our job as parents is to raise future adults. Too many adults are so focused on immediate gratification to their own detriment (i.e., debt). <br />"I see someone with a cool new gadget and I have to have it." <br /><br />Although, I am totally guilty of this... I wish I had allJamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18383227987525280650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100658157604879121.post-9403635025045539372010-08-11T11:25:46.282-04:002010-08-11T11:25:46.282-04:00Hmm, we haven't had this issue pop up yet, but...Hmm, we haven't had this issue pop up yet, but I really like Heidi's rule. <br /><br />The other idea I like is that when friends/cousins/etc. come over to play your kids get to decide on one or two things each that they aren't going to share and those get put away. Everything else is fair game and must be shared. Perhaps you could modify this for a week - that MG gets to decide Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100658157604879121.post-86889406021908778472010-08-11T10:50:38.052-04:002010-08-11T10:50:38.052-04:00My oldest are the same ages as yours. Here's ...My oldest are the same ages as yours. Here's our rule for all three kids:<br /><br />On the birthday/party day, the gift is the sole property of the recepient. <br /><br />Yes, this means us running interference to allow X time with Woody/Buzz/Jessie (We feel your pain - in our house it's Buzz. And yes, our daughter LOVES him too.)<br /><br />It is explained to the siblings that it is X&Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10809256718079040072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100658157604879121.post-8151728044428749472010-08-11T10:09:52.909-04:002010-08-11T10:09:52.909-04:00Wow, big implications here. I think while it may ...Wow, big implications here. I think while it may break your heart, let MG revel in her doll and let Claire continue loving what she has. Lesson is, if your neighbor wins a 2011 Corvette (red, convertible) learning that you can't have one and learning to be appreciative for what you DO have (read: disappointment), is a good live skill to have...Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18222834723113460808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100658157604879121.post-75944675916266511162010-08-11T09:24:17.172-04:002010-08-11T09:24:17.172-04:00Amy, I would go and get the doll. You should see...Amy, I would go and get the doll. You should see the way the girls with Jesse together (yes they each have one and will both have bullseye soon). So worth watching them play together instead of fighting over....<br /><br />:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com