I know exactly what I'd do. I'd have it ordered on my Kindle before she blew out the candles, that's what. The last thing I would do is wait until Christmas to ask for it and then hope that I got it from someone.
Ok, let's imagine a second situation. My sister gets a book, and I want it, so I take it from her. When Megan got angry, would my mom say, "Megan, you need to be a better sharer!"? Would she insist that Megan give me a turn with her book? Would Megan get in trouble for not sharing? No. She would say, "Amy, quit being a jerk and get your own book."
It's different for kids, BJ insists.
But Claire doesn't understand! I counter.
That's why we have to teach her! he says. And I know he's right, except that it's so hard. And people always bring gifts for the non-birthday girl in our house (we have such generous friends and family!) and it has rarely been an issue. But they're both in love with Jessie, and you can't share a doll like that. You can't take turns with a best friend. It's really not fair to make Mary Grace give Claire a turn (see above re: Amy, get your own book).
So do we make her wait until Christmas? Do we let her take her piggy bank money and buy her own Jessie? That's what we did with Mary Grace when she wanted something Claire got last Christmas - it was a "FurReal" kitten. Neither one of them have played with the kittens in months. So while I'm leaning toward the "use your pocket money to get your own" option, I'm not sure that's the right thing to do.
We were not planning ahead when we had these kids 19 months apart. That is too long between birthdays.
It's going to get 33% harder in December.
I hope Gozer's a boy. Poor Woody needs someone to love him.
How do you, especially those of you with close-in-age same-gender children, handle birthdays and gifts? Am I totally being a marshmallow if I take Claire to Walmart with her piggy bank money and let her buy her own? Is anyone hiring pouty three year olds? Could I have her do some chores around the house over the next couple of days to earn enough money to buy a Jessie doll? For the record, I hate the idea of paying kids for chores, because chores are something you do because you're part of a family, not because you get paid (no one pays me to do the laundry, after all). But in this instance, I might be able to make an exception.
And, bigger picture, do the things we teach kids about waiting and sharing in our culture make any sense at all? And if not, why do we teach them what we do? Do we do it to make our own lives easier? Does that even make any sense?