The girls were at school on Friday. I had Jack in a brown shirt and jeans, inside of my blue sling, at the store. An old lady comes up and says, "She looks tired," or some similarly passive-aggressive comment (the undertone being, "Shouldn't you be at home putting your baby down for a nap instead of here?") I mentioned that she was a he, and that yes he was tired but it wasn't quite nap time yet.
"He? With those curls? I don't know if I like that!" she said.
I sputtered something about keeping it cut short, but I wish I had kicked her in her stupid old teeth.
I find that people are much more apt to stay stupid things when I don't have the girls with me - they assume that he's my first, and that I don't know what I'm doing. I remember getting a lot of stupid comments about MG, much more than I got with Claire because when Claire was a baby, I nearly always had both of them with me (MG was never in school or on a playdate on her own, because she wasn't old enough to have her own little life, yet).
The crones of the world could really learn to be nicer to first time mothers, or those who appear to be first timers.
Leave your best, "What Amy should have said," in the comments.
(Mine, which I thought of in the car on the way to get the girls, was, "Well, that's ok, he thinks your hair is stupid, too.")