So I have a dilemma. The room parent is organizing a fall party for one of my girls' classes. The note home said "feel free to bring in 22 non-food trinkets for the class."
A+ for saying "non-food." My kid does not need 22 pieces of candy a few days before Halloween. I am being 100% truthful when I tell you that we still have candy from last Halloween (and last Christmas, and last Easter....) in the house. Mean Mommy does not let the children eat much candy. Seriously, look at all the candy.
|I took this, consolidated it all down into the blue bowl, threw some away, |
and then promptly found ANOTHER container of candy.
132 is a lot.
I have two kids. So assuming I spend twenty bucks to get these cute witches broom pencils for the class, times 2 kids in school, times 3 occasions per year... That's $120 a year for a bunch of clutter. (Or ~200 trinkets and $180 when Jack is in school!)
Furthermore, these transactional gift giving occasions - where you're required to get something for each child, and each child is required to get something for your child - I think they detract from the true meaning and spirit of what gift giving is supposed to be about. How can I expect my kids to understand gratitude and generosity and those really important values when they're getting a bag full of cheap plastic crap from China three times a year? (At the beginning of the school year I divided up all the pencils we got last year into two bags and sent them to the girls' teachers for their classrooms - and I still had a ton left.)
On the other hand, though, I don't want my kid to be the one jerk who shows up without something. I don't want them to be singled out for not participating. I don't want them to feel uncomfortable if all their friends bring them something, but they don't have anything to give in return.
So what do I do? Do I hit "reply all" and say, "Really? Let's skip the trinkets!" and link to the blog (that is a VERY bad idea, no one should read this blog). Do I just suck it up and send the trinkets and find something cheaper to buy in bulk to send? Please tell me that this madness will end sometime in the next couple of years!
Love and kisses,